back in full bloom

it’s been some time since my last blog post and there’s only one thing for to say… wedding planning kicked my ass. ooh, and i loved every second of it.

to sum it all up, i, astami, got  hitched. it’s been a month that has felt so surreal… so magical, and i owe it all the all my friends, family (yes, bobby and josh, that now includes you), and my main man chan.

a little instagram action for our nyc city hall nuptials…

the day was shot by my beautiful bubbly friend and amazing wedding photographer, julia azcona. she was, without a doubt, my number one choice to entrust with the responsibility of capturing the day. let’s face it folks, your wedding day can turn out to be everything you planned, or the absolute opposite, but one thing you will forever cherish are the photographs of the laughter, the tears, the hugs, and the oops moments that make for a funny story later on down the road. julia is talented, trustworthy, eager, and kind. the images she captured from that day were absolutely timeless and i’m glad i hired her. to see julia‘s full blog post of our special day, please click here.

our ceremony was in bali and let’s just say, i still need some time to share that part. i’m still oh so jetlagged, totally full of amazing seafood and yummy young coconuts but rest assured…  i shall blog about them soon. bobby earle and josh newton were on hand to photograph the evening and they were amazing. bobby posted a sneak peak here and to say that i can not wait to see more, is a ridiculous understatement.

seriously bobby, i cannot wait for more


-newly minted missus b.


online wedding boutique

while to some, the idea of shopping for their wedding gown online seems atrocious, to me… it sounds heavenly. i am the type of person who likes to see my options without the pressure of a salesperson on my shoulders. i’m definitely not saying anything bad about sales people, some are there to truly help you out. but sometimes, i just want a minute alone with my choices…. and when i need help, i’ll ask.

i was introduced to shopbop years ago, by my ex oh-so-chic roommate, tanty. when she showed me the site, it was all down hill from there. i wanted everything! shopbop’s layout is easy on the eyes and their sorting options make searching for something specific very efficient. and in honor of the recent launch of their wedding boutique, i thought i’d share some others that have made an impression on me…

Shopbop’s Wedding Boutique


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BHLDN (pronounced Beholden) … from the brains over at urban outfitters


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J. Crew … and to think, they were once all but a wee lil’ catalog.


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White by Vera Wang at David’s Bridal … while technically, this isn’t an online store, it’s nice to be able to see the whole collection online, print out the ones you’d like to try on, and bring it to the stores scattered all throughout the US.


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note: if see something you think you might like, please go to david’s bridal asap. when i went, almost all of it was sold out. i’m sure you can imagine with the reasonable prices and the amazing designs, these babies are selling like hotcakes.


hope this helps!


Something New…

Like a kid in a candy shop, helplessly filled with glee and utter joy, I went to a store to go shopping with my mom and girlfriend…

Having watched Say Yes to the Dress once, I can honestly say… I was not looking forward to searching for a wedding dress. Shoes… YES. Dress… hmm, not so much. I mean really, do people know that they don’t make each dress in each size? I sure as hell didn’t and I thought maybe this blog post could help out anyone out there who is about to get married or wants a white dress for the hell of it (no judgment). I’m sure some of you reading are thinking “DUH.. of course they don’t make each dress in each size.” I’m sorry, but I truly was no aware of that. I come from the land of XS/S/M/L or 0/2/4/6/8 or even 6/8/10/12… you know… a variety of sizes. My anxiety caused by that God forsaken TV show pushed me to a point where I was forced to try on dresses that were off the rack. I know to some this would be heart breaking but to me, this was music to my ears! I was ready to wear a dress from Gap or Tibi paired with some badass Louboutins… but that’s just me. I like mixing a variety of high-end fashion and cost conscious items and would much rather spend more money on the shoes than on a dress I’d wear once.

So… I walked into Kleinfeld with every intention of walking out with no dress. My goal was to pick out a gazillion dresses, try them on, and see what fit looked best on me.

1st dress: Mehh… it was alright.

2nd dress: I really liked it but my homeslice Jeanina said it was like something I’d normally wear. No, I don’t normally wear a couple thousand dollar dresses on a regular basis but she was right. This dress seemed too… safe. There was no risqué to it, no wow factor.

So on to dress 3. Please remember… I didn’t want to walk out with a dress. But as I put it on, and our helpful assistant zipped me up… everyone knew: this is the dress. I wanted so much not to love it and at the risk of sounding like a complete narcissist, I’m just going to say it… I kept trying to pry my eyes away from my own reflection but couldn’t. This dress was the bombdizzle.

Yup, that’s me and the dress.What? You didn’t think I was going to show you the actual thing, did you?

To me, the exhilarating feeling wouldn’t come from the fact that someone makes me a brand spanking new dress… The excitement came from the fact that slipped into a dress that fit me like a glove, like stepping into shoes that make your legs look like whoa. Y’know what I’m sayin’…

happy friday!


Wedding Planning And Tacos

2011… Gosh. Is it already 2011?!? Last year flew and I have no doubt in my mind that this year will be just the same, if not swifter.

This morning the fam and I got together at our De Mole, our favorite Sunnyside Mexican spot, to talk wedding plans. With the wedding coming up (egads… only four months away!), planning is coming down to crunch time. Flights, hotel rooms, activities… all this smoothly coming along and I couldn’t be more excited. People have asked Chan and I why we were having the wedding in Bali and the answer really is two parts. One is that it’s always been my dream to get married in the island I can only describe as heavenly. I’ve never been one to dream of my dress or the decor… just the location and it’s always been Bali. The second part is for our grandmothers to be able to attend. Chan and I are lucky enough to have them around and I wouldn’t want them to miss the nuptials. I do apologize for all our local NYC homies who won’t be able to join us. It breaks my heart to know that some of my closest friends won’t be able to see our celebration in Bali firsthand.

One of the things I’m super excited about is our wedding photographer. After going through many local island options, I decided to steer another way. Not to take away credit from the Bali photographers, I’m sure you guys are amazing, but it’s the friend factor. I know, I know… the wedding photographer isn’t there to be your friend, he’s there to do a job… right? I don’t know if it’s just me as a person or because of the fact that I am a wedding photographer, but I need someone I click with. My photographer’s name is Bobby Earle and let’s just say… he’s solid. Wickedly solid with his camera and I have 150% confidence in him.

I’m exhausted and totally done for the day but I needed to get this off my chest… I’m getting married to Chan in four months! I can’t wait to have the sand between my toes and the warm breeze in my hair. I can’t wait to have drinks with my buddies in a land they’d consider foreign. I can’t wait to hug my cousins and dance like we did when we were kids. But best of all… I can’t wait to be able to call Chan my husband.

On a side note, I wanted to say that as a photographer, I have to slow down a little. Not to say that I don’t appreciate the inquiries… I do, truly… it’s an honor. But I’ve been booked for several events and with the upcoming wedding and travel plans, I apologize in advanced if I will not be able to take some requests. Please don’t be offended if I say I can’t do it, but it’s simply not fair for me to say I can take accept an offer and give you 150%. After July… I’m totally schmotally available to click away and capture your feelings… your moments… your photos.

Happy Sunday… have a nice week.

Here’s a snapshot of me, Chan, Bobby, and his always stunning wife Lindsay…